Thursday, November 24, 2011

Benevolence



In any relationship, it is seeing how we can benefit the other.  It is easy to see benevolence to feed the hungry or to house the homeless.  Benevolence, however, should taint every one of our relationships, every one of our conversations.  We can do good by listening to another, by making sure communication is safe for others,  by encouraging others in hope, by finding out what they actually need.  It is seeking to meet the needs of others, and we all have need.  Ultimately, benevolence is the core of love.  It is the seed from which true love grows.  By seeking the other’s need and trying to meet it, we can find ourselves.

Opposite: Seeking only to meet our own needs; being apathetic to other’s needs

In our relationships, are we focused on what we can get out of them, or what we can give in them?  Do we consider the needs of those we know?  Do we recognize signs of weakness in them, in order to assist them, or at least to empathize?  Do we seek help for those around us when they are in need, or do we just give pat answers and hope they will stop complaining?  Do we avoid weak people or seek ways to make them strong?  Ultimately, are our lives about meeting our own needs, or helping others to meet theirs?

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